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Caregiver holiday stress: 5 tips to help you cope

Nov. 25, 2024—The holidays are supposed to be happy. But for caregivers, the added to-dos can also feel hectic. If you or someone you know is caring for an older adult, consider these timely tips from the Family Caregiver Alliance, National Council on Aging and Alzheimer’s Association. They can help ease your stress—and just might make the season a bit brighter.

Spend meaningful time with your loved one

Chores and care tasks still have to happen during the holidays. But it's also important to take time to enjoy the person you're caring for. It'll make the season more meaningful for both of you.

Try unpacking decorations together. Or look through old photo albums from past holidays. Activities that tap into long-term memory are especially great for people with dementia.

Adapt your traditions

Traditional holiday roles may need to shift—and that's OK. You may need to hand hosting duties over to a family member who has more time for holiday cooking and entertaining.

For older adults with changing abilities, it could mean doing different parts of activities they used to enjoy. For instance, they could help pack cookies in tins for loved ones instead of baking.

Schedule time for self-care

Give yourself the gift of doing something for you. Try carving out time to meditate or exercise or schedule a relaxing weekend getaway.

Another idea: Make a caregiver wish list and share it with your family and friends. Your list might include:

Time off from caregiving for the holidays.
A gift certificate for a massage.
Repairs around the house.
Booking a home care worker.

Stick to your budget

Extra expenses like gifts and food for parties can add up quickly this time of year. Try to limit presents to one per person to keep costs in check. Another idea: Ask your family and friends to skip the presents this year—and give the gift of quality time together instead.

Set limits for your loved one

Older adults can get overwhelmed during the holidays. Think about ways to keep their stress levels low. You could:

Create a quiet room away from the main gathering spot where they can retreat if they need to rest.
Ask people to visit them in smaller groups, instead of having one large gathering.

There are more ways to manage this time of year. Find other helpful caregiving coping strategies here.

Sources

Alzheimer's Association. "The Holidays and Alzheimer's." https://www.alz.org/help-support/resources/holidays.
Family Caregiver Alliance. "Caregiving and the Holidays: From Stress to Success." https://www.caregiver.org/resource/caregiving-and-holidays-stress-success/.
National Council on Aging. "6 Ways to Avoid Holiday Caregiver Stress and Enjoy the Season." https://www.ncoa.org/article/6-ways-to-avoid-holiday-caregiver-stress-and-enjoy-the-season/.